I saw the photo
of conception’s split-second,
marveled at our growth
I will start this short entry with an admission. I have not read this book in its entirety. There was a point to my reading it, a mission of mine, but circumstances have changed since the undertaking, and finishing the book seems more burden than boon now.
This small volume, though, originally published in 1867, then re-published in 2007, and authored by a Mr. Ingoldsby North, holds some quotes that ask to be shared. This book is a series of love letters and replies to them, some actual and some written by the author. They cover a variety of circumstances. Here are a few of the options considered: “A Plain-spoken Young Man about to settle on a Farm”, “Letter to a Lady Stranger seen at Church”, “Remarks on the Love of elderly people”, and “Letter of a Gentleman in moderate Circumstances to a rich Lady.”
Here then are the particular quotes that jumped out to me, that you might find enjoyable.
- “My theory of marriage is, that there should be no obedience of wife to husband, in the vulgar sense of the word, but that our governing principle of democracy–which means that every man is a partner in the nation’s business–may best of all apply to married life. I say that the wife is the husband, and the husband the wife. “One and indivisible,” my darling, does just as well for your and my motto, as for the motto of our great republic.”
- “We, dearest, will never depart from the golden rule of mutual confidence. Each a reflection of the other, no distorted views can be taken by either. Each knowing that no thought rests in the mind that may not be given to the other, we cannot disagree. And where we have opinions of our own, as all should have, we will make them but add to the harmony which, like that in music, is but the blending of different notes in one glorious and elevating sound.”
What is neat, is that besides transcribing letters, Mr. North also adds commentary where he believes appropriate. To one letter, in which a Gentleman asks a Lady to declare himself the preferred of her Suitors, Mr. North has this to say:
- “Some ladies may think that Felix need not have alluded to the other gentlemen with whom he is running a race for love. I think differently, for the reason that a fair, manly statement, showing a knowledge of the possible obstacles in the way, and giving credit to others besides himself will impress the lady’s mind.”
- In response to Felix’s letter, a Ms. Maud Mowbray replies, in part: “I am, as you think probable, still free, although, as I will imitate your own candor in adding, I have had the opportunity of giving up my liberty more than once.”
In the “Correspondence of a Lady and Gentleman Differing in Religions Belief, Ingoldsby has this to say:
- “There is no more painful ordeal for poor human nature than the choice between gratifying a strong inclination and following the dictates of reason. Few escape such an ordeal. Business, pleasure, ambition, the love of gain, the love of the sexes, and many other attributes and circumstances of life, are continually at war with honor, indolence, generosity, and wisdom; and the heart and brain of mortal men and women are but battle-fields, are often strewed with the wounded and the slain.”
Though times, styles and methods of correspondence change, it seems that now, as then, the journey of love can ever be described with the statement, courtesy of Pat Benatar, that “Love is a Battlefield.”
heard footsteps above
and for a moment or two
things were what they’d been
A Twitter-acquaintance asked today what my all-time fave movies are. That’s something that sure cannot be encapsulated in 140 characters. So, by referring to my copy of “1001: A Video Odyssey“, let me list a few of the movies dear to my tastes!
- “It Happened One Night”, 1934. Clark Gable at his total smoothest. The writing is great and fast paced. This is the movie that sent men’s undershirt makers into an uproar!
- “Unbreakable”, 2000. Bruce Willis has been in my Dude Pantheon ever since Moonlighting. This is one of M. Night Shyamalan’s Good films. And, as a comicbook fan, this one delivered. The opening sequence along, on the train, is amazing.
- “Rear Window”, 1954 . Jimmy Stewart, another entry in the Dude Pantheon is great as a cranky, broken-legged photographer. Grace Kelly is most lovely as his girlfriend.
- “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”, 1986. Matthew Broderick set a standard and Jennifer Grey still had her better nose. Breaking the 4th Wall and skipping school were never so fun.
- “Swingers”, 1996. Vince Vaughn, Jon Favreau and lots of talking. Great mood, great film.
- “The General”, 1925. Buster Keaton–that’s all you need to know!
- “A Simple Plan”, 1998. Wow, Bill Bob Thornton was great in this high-tension thriller. Really a great film. Make a double-feature with “Fargo” and your evening’s set!
- “The Hudsucker Proxy”, 1993. Tim Robbins and Paul Newman, total members of the Dude Pantheon. Reminiscent of “It Happened One Night”, from a script-writing perspective. Double-feature this one with “Arlington Road”, 1999 to get two very different Tim Robbins.
- “Groundhog Day”, 1993. This will likely be my favorite Bill Murray film. It’s a fun, inspired script and Harold Ramis is a great director. To make it even better, parts of it was filmed in the town I was born in–Woodstock, IL!
- “Sunset Boulevard”, 1950 and “Double Indemnity”, 1944 get to share a spot as two Must-See examples of classic film noir. And, “Dead Again”, 1991 is a great modern noir with some twists you’ll never see coming!
- “The Apartment”, 1960. Comedy at its best. Jack Lemmon is a classic, as is co-star Shirley MacLaine.
OK, that’s plenty of films for you to start watching! Let me know in the comments what are YOUR favorite films!